Do you take as much time to make yourself beautiful inside as you do on the outside?
Woman applying mascara
Many natural-living sites have articles or blog posts that teach you about chemical-free beauty products. (Even me: see this article and this blog post.) But if you look like Miss America but act have anger management skills along the lines of Atilla the Hun, you won’t be attractive to anyone who gets to know you.
Do you regularly find yourself doing any of the following?
- Complaining
- Gossiping
- Throwing a tantrum (slamming doors, screaming, giving your partner the silent treatment, etc.)
- Having hateful thoughts toward someone you believe wronged you
- Arguing in order to prove yourself right
If so, perhaps it’s time to put away your makeup kit for a few days and use the extra time to focus on what really matters: your attitude.
A negative attitude is not only annoying to the people around you, but detrimental to your health, as well. Are you aware that negative thoughts disrupt the delicate balance of your bodily fluids and make you considerably more vulnerable to illness and disease?
Furthermore, when you walk around with a dark cloud over your head, you can’t see the light that surrounds you. And if you are blinded to all the good things–a faithful spouse, helpful friends, opportunities, sunrises and sunsets–you will become stagnated in your life. Your mind will tell you that you can’t achieve your goals, and you will believe it. You will walk right past wide-open doors of opportunity to improve yourself spiritually, financially, physically, and emotionally.
However, when you have a positive attitude, the opposite happens. You believe bigger, and therefore achieve more. You see others as helpful and friendly, and they respond in kind. You take every opportunity you can to better yourself, therefore life is constantly a fun challenge and you continually grow.
And, of course, you get healthier in the process.
So how can you go from grump to great? Here are five steps to help you along the way toward increased inner beauty.
1. Recognize, write down, and release grudges.
If you are holding on to unforgiveness, the only person being punished is you. Seek Divine help, and then psychological help, if necessary. Announce out loud that you forgive so-and-so for thus-and-such. Let as many cleansing tears fall as necessary, but do not continue holding the grudge.
2. Make three positive statements for every negative one.
Whenever you catch yourself saying something negative–whether about yourself, someone else, or a situation–make yourself think of and say aloud three positive ones. The more you do this, the more you will get tired of doing it and eventually stop saying negative things just so you won’t have to think so much.
3. Start a Gratitude Journal.
Every evening for a month, write down five things that happened that day for which you are grateful. After two weeks, you will probably be looking for things to be thankful for during the day, and your complaining will drop off so much that your friends will ask if you’ve started taking a new medication.
4. Use essential oils.
If you’re a woman like me, you may be perfectly happy for two weeks out of every month, but as soon as you ovulate, boy, watch out! If PMS is the main culprit for your negativity, essential oils such as lavender, chamomile, and (especially, I’ve found) rosemary can turn your bad mood around in a matter of minutes. The absolute best and most effective oils are provided by Be Young.
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Chronic anger and negativity are often caused by nutritional deficiencies and/or toxicity. To learn the principles of optimal health that can not only reduce your risk of getting sick, but also improve your mental health, you should check out my e-book, Weird Health.
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5. Phrase your goals as questions.
This puts your subconscious to work, both in keeping you in a more positive frame of mind and in finding answers to questions, with little work on your part.
For example, if you want to get out of debt, ask, “How did I get out of debt so quickly?” If you want to lose weight, ask, “Why is taking off thirty pounds so easy?” If you want to eat healthier, ask, “Why is it so easy for me to stick to a healthy diet?” Whenever your mind brings up a related negative thought, shoot it down by asking your goal-question.
Tired of hearing yourself whine? Or of your irrational mood swings? Put these steps into action, and begin to transform your life in a wonderful, positive way!
